Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Update AND the Random Dozen for Wednesday

So, the update is that my mother had a good day yesterday, and so did my stepfather! I went over around 11:45 a.m. to help her clean out the refrigerator and then get her settled for her nap. She was almost sprightly, she felt so good! Well, as sprightly as you can be when you're dragging around an extra 30 pounds of fluid weight. She'd had a good night's sleep on her heated mattress cover (her first) and woke feeling better than she has in a while -- she said her bones didn't ache when she got up. She was able to stay awake all morning (which tells me that some of that daytime tiredness has been from not getting a good night's sleep).

I asked how my stepfather was and she said he'd woken up grumpy but that she'd been grumpy, too, and that they'd grumped at each other all morning long. He finally said, "You're contrary today." And she replied, "Yes, I am. But I'm on my two feet!" After that, he went outside to haul wood.

Wise man.

He came inside while I was there and was very affable. Of course, I also was careful not to overstay my welcome. I stayed just long enough for the Hospice nurse's visit -- about an hour and a half.

The Hospice nurse measured my mother's ankles -- they were 1/2 inch more swollen than the day before. Looks like the edema is about at the "Plus 3" stage -- on a scale of 1-5, that is. Soon, the fluid will rise high enough to affect her lungs and heart. She may die of complications from the fluid or she may die from the cancer on her liver. It's anyone's guess right now. Her kidneys aren't working very well, either -- her urine output is minimal, so it seems that things are shutting down.

In the meantime, yesterday was a good day.

And now, for the Random Dozen, thanks to Lid at 2nd Cup of Coffee:

1. Tell me something about your favorite teacher.

I’ve had some great teachers in my life, but my first grade teacher, Mrs. Schlamp, is the one that stands out in my memory when I hear the phrase “favorite teacher.” Sharp, intelligent, kind and fair are the words that come to mind. She was no pushover, nor was she one of those elementary school teachers who treated her students like they were “precious.” My brother had had her the year before, but she never held that up as a comparison for me, in my memory. And she treated me like I had worth and was intelligent – a situation I’d not really experienced before. I just loved her dearly and was sad to leave her classroom.

2. Tell me about one pivotal moment in your life.

After years of rebellion and trying to stand on my own two feet – and making a perfect hash-up of the whole thing – I had it out with God one afternoon. I’d been a saved Christian since I was a teenager but had developed into a very self-reliant, independent adult whose life had spiraled out of control because she didn’t lean on and learn from her Lord and Savior. I’ll never forget the absolute quiet that succeeded that storm of tears and sobs. I wondered if He was still there – I’d been pretty rough in my anger and rage. And He was, indeed, still right there. My attitude changed immediately, and I dove deeper and deeper into an authentic faith in the living Lord, a journey I'm still on and always will be.

3. About favorite colors--a lot of people will ask you what it is, but I want to know why it is. What feeling or memory does it evoke?

Favorite color to wear – pale pink. Why? Because I think it softens my strong facial features (square jaw, large nose, etc.) and makes me look more feminine.

4. What's a sure sign that you're getting older?

The fact that I struggle to get up off the floor and that I audibly groan along with my complaining joints when I do so.

5. Please don't sermonize, but Halloween--is it a yes or no for you?

Yes for little kids trick or treating in fun and non-evil costumes. No for teens/adults having drunken bacchanals or getting into satanic stuff.

6. What's your favorite musical?

South Pacific. It has an absolutely glorious score (“Wonderful Guy” remains one of my all time favorites) and there is still a timely message in the story (“You’ve got to be taught to hate and fear….”)

7. Are you more of a city mouse or country mouse?

Country. The city wears me out and makes me feel hemmed in.

8. Did you know that it is possible, for a small fee, to name a real star after someone? (It's true! Google it!) If someone were to name a star for you, would you appreciate it for its whimsy and romance, or would you say, "Are you kidding me? For $19.95 we could have gone to the movie and actually bought popcorn."

I’d truly appreciate it from a close friend (or friends) and think it was a complete waste of money from anyone else.

This question comes from Paula at His Ways Are Not Our Ways.
9. What's the craziest thing you've ever been doing and texted during it? I only thought of this b/c I was about to try to text during my walking video but I didn't.

During rehearsal with my church’s praise band, when I’m playing the keyboard, I ignore incoming phone calls and text back the words “In rehearsal.” That’s about as crazy as it gets, I’m afraid.

10. "It's not a party unless _______."

it includes family and good food!

11. When you're stuck in traffic or a waiting room, what do you do to pass the time? PS: There are no magazines available.

I have a “Crackberry.” ‘Nuff said.

12. If you weren't yourself, would you be friends with you?

That’s a tough one. I think I’d like the fact that I’m loyal, funny and frank (not mean or rude, just frank). Maybe I wouldn’t like the fact that I don’t keep up with my friends as much as I should. Hmmm… that really is a tough question.


Nostalgic for the Pleistocene said...

I am glad to hear your stepdad having a better day. The Source is clearly strengthening all of you, hard though this is. I'm touched by your understanding of what he's going through.

I LOVE South Pacific. I'd be hard-put to choose between that and Man of La Mancha.

What the heck is a "crackberry"??

SusanD said...

So glad your mom had a good day and the mattress cover is helping her. My heart goes out to you as my grandmother suffered from edema due to kidney failure.

I have not succumbed to the crackberry craze yet. Glad it helps you stay connected and entertained.

Blessings, SusanD

Joyce said...

I'm so glad to hear your mom had a good day and things were smooth with your step dad. I will continue to pray.

My husband has a blackberry and there is for sure a reason it is nicknamed crackberry! That being said, I love to text.

Susanne said...

Loved the story of how the Lord was there for you! Praying that you and you mom and step father strongly sense Him at this time too. May He be your strength!

Kim said...

Right behind English teachers (#1 answer for #1) is the first grade teacher :-) Pink is a favorite answer to #3 too, although I think blue is running a little ahead. But not by much :-)

Enjoyed reading your answers!

2nd Cup of Coffee said...

Wonderful answers. You are a writer.